“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of Wow, I’m not really sure I can do this, and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.” Marissa Mayer
I have found that to be true a lot in my life. By not always taking the easy way, by setting a goal without the assurance that I could achieve it but trying anyway – I found that there are Wow moments that boosted my self-confidence and helped make me a little bit more well-rounded with more to give of myself. And know that I can’t rest on those moments – that I need to be open and ready for the next challenge.
Photograph of my boston terrier Jimi at the dog beach in Morro Bay. He is a little guy with a courageous spirit – he thinks he can swim far out with the big dogs while we stand on shore aware of the possibility of him being swept away to sea and insist on getting him back on shore!
“Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools or oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen . . .” Anne Lamott
An excerpt from Bird By Bird by Anne Lamott. I hit 65 and have reflected from time to time on where the time went . . . how I would have done things differently . . . missed opportunities . . . didn’t go for that swim . . . Do we always have to get here before we really start to get how quickly life passes us by?
A long windy road on the way to Lake San Antonio, Ca. Please don’t be in such a hurry that you take chances on a blind curve . . .
“If the day and the night are such that you greet them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet-scented herbs, is more elastic, more starry, more immortal–that is your success.” Henry David Thoreau
“Gracefulness has been defined to be the outward expression of the inward harmony of the soul.” William Hazlitt
The word “grace” came up recently and I’ve been dwelling on it’s meaning, apart from it’s biblical meaning. I came across the above quote and it resonated with me. Someone else wrote: “Grace is undeserved favor.
Grace is loving someone who’s so unlovable; being courteous to someone who’s rude; being merciful to someone who’s merciless; forgiving someone even before he or she repents; being willing to reach out to someone who doesn’t want to have anything to do with you, even rejects you.”
Wow – if only we could aspire to living lives full of grace – peace and beauty would abound!
Photo of swan on pond taken at Hummingbird House in Templeton, Ca.
“The grace of God means something like: Here is your life. You might never have been, but you are because the party wouldn’t have been complete without you.” Frederick Buechner
I took this at Robin’s in Cambria. My bff Bonnie took me out for my birthday. I am so fortunate to have some super special friends in my life, and like F.B. says, “the party wouldn’t have been complete without you!” I especially dedicate this to my adored friend Theresa in honor of her birthday. Theresa, no party is complete without you!.
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o’er wrought heart and bids it break.” Shakespeare
To the friend of someone grieving, I would advise less words and more hugs or just sitting with them and letting them cry, or not . . . But as someone who has had her heart broken by a shattering loss, at some point it does help to begin verbalizing and allowing some expression of the intense pain to come out. It does lead one to begin wanting to live again.